I think this might be an important article to ponder in regards to some of the small traumas we may have suffered in the military, and frankly in life in general. The explanations in the article below makes sense to me and I can’t help but think contemplating the micro-traumas might help in determining the treatments and considerations needed to help us feel whole again.
I’m not sure if the book referenced is worth buying or borrowing from a library somewhere, but I think the idea is intriguing.
Why do so many people feel chronically unhappy, frustrated, anxious, and depressed, even when there’s no “smoking gun” to account for such distress? Why do many seemingly ordinary interactions with others leave us feeling disheartened or deflated? It’s because many of the slings and arrows that wound us emotionally are not obvious to the naked eye—they are what I call “micro-traumas.” These are subtly hurtful patterns of engaging with one another that can seem innocuous and therefore go unnoticed. But should this mistreatment build up over time, it can diminish our sense of self-worth, raise our anxieties, and compromise our capacity for healthy relationships.
You’ve had a micro-traumatic moment when you’re given the cold shoulder (which I call “Unkind Cutting Back”) or when someone acts a little too close and confidential toward you in a way that’s inappropriate (“Uneasy Intimacy”). Another instance is when someone insults you offhandedly, while denying any negative intent (a “Little Murder”).
An accumulation of micro-traumas can occur during childhood or adulthood, and may happen in a family context, at school, or in the workplace. Since these injurious moments are often embedded in relationships important to us, we may be motivated to ignore them so as not to rock the relational boat. But we do so at our peril, as they may seriously undermine our constructive functioning.
This article was written by: Rachel Baker – Click to follow on Twitter